Who is your enemy?

One who troubles you and one who is an ill-wisher and a friend is one who is the exact opposite. This is how people define friend and enemy. Do you agree with this point?

Out of my experience many of my friends were with me and at some point or the other they were jealous on my credits. Was it my mistake? No....It was his/her character. I can't help it, so the best way is to keep away from them gradually. Do not ignore them at once.

Only on such situation or happenings people will show their real face. This is nothing to worry about, to be very precise it is an opportunity given to you to know your real friends better and early.

Now tell me who is the better one your friend or your enemy?

At least you know your enemy and you can guess his moves, so you have a chance to prepare for defence but how about an untrusted and unfaithful friend?

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  1. Elaine // June 13, 2009 at 11:42 PM

    I can see that you are writing this from a place where you are in pain and anger.

    But I think that “enemies” are short-lived; they are usually born from a single act or moment that will have its 15 minutes of fame and then fade; your one-time enemy will just become another face in the crowd.

    By contrast, true friendship is long-lasting, and built over time from many small acts of love and sharing.

    While I would not want to encourage the cult of Enemy, as it is a temporary label and not a life-choice, I agree that we should discreetly avoid those people who will be harmful to us in either body or spirit.

    As for our friends, we should try to get to know them from the inside – their outer trappings will change over time, but people’s hearts don’t change. So get to know the ”inner” friend, and you can go a long way towards protecting yourself from those seeming-friends who would eventually betray you.

    We also need to examine what kind of friend we have been ourselves – were our expectations of the friendship realistic, or did we see in this person what we wanted to see, what we needed it to be? This is a common failing in our relationships, so we must not be too hard on ourselves when we encounter it, rather strive to do things better next time.

    And for those of us (myself included) who have experienced the sting of a friend’s betrayal, we must not take it as our queue to shut ourselves away from the world, meeting future overtures of friendship with pessimism and distrust. We must not be afraid to take a gamble, because as much as it hurts to lose in this game, winning (finding a true friend) is more than worth the risk.

    And when we can truly and freely forgive those who behaved as enemies towards us, we will ourselves be healed.